Ask Alex : My kid is bad at everything he tries

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Hey Alex!

I’ll just cut to the chase. I have an 11 year old boy and the kid just isn’t good at anything! I’m not talking about in school or around the house but with any extracurricular activities. We’ve tried sports. We’ve tried musical instruments. We’ve tried hunting. He’s just really bad at everything he tries and he doesn’t seem to catch on at all. Eventually he wants to quit everything because it just gets frustrating for him and I always let him quit. Even though I am his parent there is no doubting his lack of ability. I’m beginning to wonder though if letting him quit each time is doing more harm than good. He is choosing the activities that he wants to try and at this point I don’t even make recommendations to him anymore. We just signed up for Spring baseball. So should I make him stick with it even if he clearly isn’t getting it and isn’t having fun anymore? 

Sincerely,

At A Loss

 

Hey At A Loss!

That must be very frustrating to have to witness as a parent and probably adding up in financial cost with all the failed hobbies. One thing that I like and would like to point out is that your boy doesn’t seem to get too discouraged and just moves on to the next! That is an awesome trait to have especially at such a young age.

Normally I would say allowing a child to quit is not the best route to go. In making them stick with it you are also teaching a valuable lesson about commitments and seeing things through. In your case, however, because your boy seems to never give up on himself and moves on to the next activity, I’m not sure that making him stick it out is best.

It sounds like he is just searching for something that he will excel at and ultimately bring him a little happiness to participate in.

Maybe you could talk to him and set a predetermined exit time for each activity, instead of just allowing him to quit when he has had enough.

For example with Spring baseball, let him know that if he wants to try it out he will have to stick with it no matter what for the entire season. Just explain to him that joining a team is making a commitment to that team.

This would make you not a “bad parent” in his eyes for forcing him to continue and still gives him ultimate control on whether or not he would want to participate. You never know, maybe something will click for him after his giving up point if he just stays with it a little bit longer!

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Faking for Funds

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Hey Alex!

A friend of mine recently set up a GoFundMe page for herself and her husband. It claims that her husband was diagnosed with cancer and they are needing money to cover medical and living expenses. He DOES NOT have cancer! In fact, they are both very much in good health. I confronted her about it and she just laughed and said that they thought it was a good way to get some extra money and that the people donating have the extra money to give. What should I do? It isn’t right!

Sincerely,

Concerned

 

Hey  Concerned!

You are 100% correct in that there is nothing right about the situation and kudos to you for having the ability to confront your friend about it! 

Not only is your friend’s actions morally wrong but also legally wrong. You should turn them into authorities and not think twice about it. A friend like that is not a friend worth keeping around.

There have been numerous cases just like this of people playing on the emotions of others to take advantage of crowdsourcing websites. Every one of them that has been reported has faced criminal charges such as theft by deception. Many of them have had to return the money to the donors as well.

Your friend is wrong in assuming that anyone donating has the “extra money” to give. There are plenty of good people in this world who will give their last dime to help out someone who they feel might need it more and it is exactly these people who need protection from vultures, such as your friend.

By turning your friend into authorities, not only are you stopping a bad deed but you are also protecting the innocent who are donating without question.

Turn your friend in to law enforcement and do it quickly. Then walk away knowing that you without a doubt did the right thing.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Coming Out

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Hey Alex!

This year will mark 20 years of marriage. I have one child that is somewhat grown. She will be 18 this year. The problem I’m having is that I am gay. I’ve always known this but when I got married, being gay was not socially acceptable. I’ve never cheated on my wife but it is something that I struggle with. Recently I met a man that made me realize I no longer want to live a lie. I don’t want to devastate my wife or my daughter but I need to be free and my biggest fear is losing them all together. I want them both to always be a part of my life. How do I tell them? 

Sincerely,

In The Closet

 

 

Hey In The Closet!

The only way to tell them is to be completely honest. You can’t control how they react but you can control how you react to their reactions.

I would definitely recommend telling your wife first and do it in private with no chance of interruption. Be honest with her about your feelings, not only about being gay but also about your feelings for her and your fear of loss. Be prepared for her to react. More than likely she is going to feel hurt and betrayed. At the same time, don’t be totally shocked if she tells you she kind of knew all along. There really is no predicting how a person will take news of this magnitude.

You and your wife will need to process everything together and come up with a game plan on how to tell your child. Preferably the two of you will be able to tell your daughter together but you also need to come up with your own game plan to tell your daughter alone in case your wife does not want to approach it as a team.

Just remember, you have no control over how your wife or your daughter is going to react to your news but just like they have to accept your news, you will have to accept their reactions. All you can do is be honest and let the cards fall where they may.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Financial Crisis

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Hey Alex!

Recently I have found myself in a bit of a financial crisis! I’ve always been responsible with money and how I spend it, but a couple months ago I went a little far with unnecessary purchases and now I’m falling behind on my bills. It seems like it is snowballing and I can’t keep up. How do I fix this before it’s too late?

Sincerely,

Broke

 

 

Hey Broke!

Been there, done that and I think most people find themselves in this position at some point in their lives.

The first step to digging yourself out of this financial crisis is to acknowledge that it has hit or is hitting crisis level. Avoid the mindset of “oh well, I’ll work on it tomorrow”. You can’t do this with finances because as you are experiencing it becomes a slippery slope and those bills are not going to go away.

Next, prioritize your debts. Which debts are those that provide for your basic needs such as water, shelter and food and which debts can you do without if it comes down to it, such as, gasp! internet service.

Lastly, come up with a plan to get yourself back on top. I would begin by seeing what you could do without for a while that would save you some money on the day to day basis. Do you grab a coffee in the morning? Save some money and make it at home. Do you go out to dinner during the week or grab a quick bite for lunch? Once again save some money and make it at home.

Cut out any unnecessary spending and put the extra cash towards catching up on those bills!

If this isn’t enough to get you back on track, then you will need to look into ways to increase your cash flow. Are there items around the house that could be sold for some extra income? You might even look into picking up more work until you’re caught up. No one wants to work more but if you have put yourself in a situation it is your responsibility to pull yourself back out.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : New Year’s Resolutions

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Hey Alex!

I fall into the category of people who make New Year’s Resolutions but never stick to them. How would you suggest I break this pattern and accomplish my New Year goals?

Sincerely,

Better Myself

 

Hey Better Myself!

I would suggest taking a day to reflect on the previous year. Many times people set these New Year Resolutions as an attempt to go after something they want but fail to recognize the patterns within themselves that have hindered them from accomplishing the goals before now.

Reflect on every aspect of the previous year. What did you accomplish? Where did you fall short? What made you happy? And where can you improve?

A lot of times with self reflection you might find that while it would be pretty snazzy to drop that 10 lbs., you may actually need to work on something else before attempting it. For example, are you heavier than you like because you are an emotional eater? Maybe, you could work on why you eat and what you eat rather than signing up for that gym membership.

Instead of just going for the goal, try tackling the root of why you aren’t already there. Often if you can improve on a core level, you will find that not only will you reach your ideal goal but you might accomplish so much more on the way.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Should that be on Facebook?

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Hey Alex!

Am I just getting old or do people post way too much personal information on social media? You had a baby, great! You’re eating that for dinner, cool. You’re “lookin’ fine” for court…. I can’t even. 

Sincerely,

Save Some Secrets

 

Hey Save Some Secrets!

Apparently I am getting old too, because I could not agree with you more. What happened to the days when you actually had to meet and get to know someone? 

Unfortunately, people have become addicted to the “likes” and attention they garner from social media. People have forgotten what it is like to actually have a private life and have grown so accustomed to social media interactions that they feel they are sharing with close friends. In reality, they are not.

Don’t get me wrong social media is a great way to connect and an even better way to stay in touch with friends and family, but we should take a step back and become more aware of what we post.

We do need to keep in mind that not everyone has the same social code. So what is completely inappropriate for most (example, sharing the details of a nasty breakup publicly) might be the norm for others. 

What everyone needs to consider before making any post is that once it is on the internet, it is more than likely there forever. Don’t become secure in the fact that your profile is set to private or that you have blocked that individual. There are so many privacy loopholes that being completely secure on social media is just not an option. In other words, do you really want a future employer knowing about your third DUI?

All you can really do is be aware of your own postings and if you find someone else’s post to be distasteful, do not encourage them or discourage them, simply scroll on. 

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : When to say I love you

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Hey Alex!

When is it too soon to tell someone you love them? I have been dating a girl for several months now and we spend all of our spare time together. I know that I am falling hard for her but I can’t get a read on how she feels. I just want so badly to tell her that I love her but I’m afraid that if she doesn’t feel that strongly for me then it will scare her off. The last thing I want to do is lose her at this point. What should I do?

Sincerely,

In Love

 

Hey In Love!

If you are in love and in it for the long haul then there is no reason that you have to rush to tell your girlfriend that you love her. It never hurts to take your time and let things unfold naturally. Waiting would also allow you time to make sure that these feelings are true and not just from the infatuation of something new.

I would also reflect on why you have the urge to tell her that you are in love. Is it because you simply are overwhelmed with these feelings and need to get them out or are you hoping that she will respond with an I love you in return and validate your feelings and the relationship?

More often than not, when people enter into relationships where there is a connection, things are exciting and new, not to mention everyone is putting their best foot forward. It’s during this stage that emotions can run high and sometimes these emotions can be misleading. Time shows everyone’s true self and will also reveal true feelings.

I would recommend taking a step back from the emotional urges and let everything play out as it will. Try to enjoy each moment together as it happens without adding pressure on yourself or worrying about the what ifs. If the timing is right, the I love you will come naturally.

Sincerely, 

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Setting Goals

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Hey Alex!

I am in a huge rut! I keep making plans and setting goals but it seems that I never get anywhere. I have great follow through on most things in life but when it comes to accomplishing my long term goals it seems like I never get there. I feel like I’m failing and everyone can see. What can I do to keep with my plans and achieve my goals?

Sincerely,

Spinning Wheels

 

Hey Spinning Wheels!

Haven’t we all fallen short of our goals at some point? There are several tactics that experts recommend to help people achieve their individual goals and I’m not sure that any one way is the right way.

Every person will need to find what works for them and based on what you have told me, I would say that the route you have been taking isn’t working for you and it is time to change direction.

The most common recommendation is visualization. This works for many people. Create a vision board, plan out your course of action in a journal and then take time out of each day to reflect on your board and your plans. This method is often noted as the top method for keeping someone on track.

A less conventional method is to keep all of your plans and goals to yourself. Don’t talk about, don’t write about it and don’t share it on social media! It has been proven that when a person achieves a goal, dopamine (or the feel good chemical) is released in the brain. This is your brain’s way of training itself and keeping your success pattern logged so that it may be used in the future.

On the flip side, studies have shown that your brain also releases dopamine when you talk about your goals or see them written out. So by telling a friend about your plans, your brain releases the same dopamine as though you have already accomplished your goal. This makes  it less likely for you to want to continue on your path since your brain and body have already received the reward.

In this hush hush method, it is recommended that you set a goal in your mind and a couple of stepping stones to help reach your goal. Then you just do. You don’t plan out every detail, you just begin taking action.

These methods are pretty polar opposite of each other but I would recommend trying each one out and seeing if either works for you. It might be that you need to modify to find a middle ground between the two methods.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Passions and Causes

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Hey Alex!

I was recently on Facebook and came across an article from a local news station about a man who was charged with animal cruelty. It made me mad to see, but what made me more mad were the comments under the article. So many people were calling for a harsh punishment and I couldn’t help but think why do these people not call for the same justice when it comes to child abuse!?! How can you value a dog’s life over a human life? I tried to express my opinion but got attacked. What is wrong with people? Am I just wrong in my thinking?

Sincerely,

Confused

 

Hey Confused!

There is nothing wrong with being passionate about an injustice taking place in the world, but there is something wrong with judging another person’s passion. 

I think that most people can agree on some universal wrongs. Most would agree that there is no justification for abuse of any kind, whether animal or human, and I think you expressed this in your letter. While you value human life more than that of an animal, your statement of “It made me mad to see” shows that you also feel animal abuse is wrong.

With that in mind, I would also bet that these same people who are passionate about animal rights would also stand beside you on cases of human abuse. They just might not be as vocal.

If we all shared the same passions, the world would be way off balance. We would have areas of society reaching perfection while everything else falls apart. Let people have their passions. Let them fight for a greater good that most can agree on. You have to tackle a problem from all sides, so let them battle their battle and you battle yours. And show your support when it is something you can agree needs to be changed, whether it is your passion or not.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

 

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Ask Alex : Who Did You Vote For?

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Hey Alex!

I voted! I have a coworker who constantly talks politics with me but we have VERY differing views. He doesn’t know it because I usually just listen to him and nod politely and act like I am on the fence about a lot of issues. To me, it’s not worth arguing over. I know he is going to ask me who I ended up voting for and I know if I told him the truth, he would probably not speak to me anymore. What should I do? I don’t want to lie to the guy just to keep the peace.

Sincerely,

Uncomfortable

 

Hey Uncomfortable!

There is a reason that you go into the poll booth alone and privately vote the way that you feel is best. I have yet to see a precinct in America where one just walks in and publicly shouts their favorite candidate in front of the crowd to cast their vote. The reason is so that you can vote the way you feel without being pressured by outside influences. 

Unfortunately, people seem to have forgotten this. It is now the norm to pressure your friends and family politically via conversation or social media and what’s worse is knowing that there is no longer tolerance from the masses for opposing views.

You don’t need to lie to your coworker. The fact of the matter is that who you voted for is not his or anyone else’s business. Just simply tell him, “I’d rather not say” and give a smile. Let him interpret that however he feels. If he keeps pressuring you for an answer, firmly but kindly let him know that you really don’t want to share because you don’t want to ruin any of your relationships at work over politics.

You are correct in valuing a personal relationship over politics because while politics and policy affect all of our lives, at the end of the day our personal relationships offer us the true support we need to make it through life.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Survivor’s Guilt

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Hey Alex!

About a year ago I was in a horrible car accident. Me and my best friend were out late one night and a drunk driver hit us at an intersection. My best friend didn’t survive and I somehow walked away with almost no injuries. I constantly wonder why I was the one to live and she didn’t. Everyone tells me that I’ve been given a gift, a second chance, but I just can’t seem to find my purpose. I’m afraid I’m going to waste my life. I can’t move forward and I don’t know what to do. How do I live my life to the fullest and honor my friend’s memory?

Sincerely,

Need Direction

 

Hey Need Direction! 

I am so sorry that this tragic accident has happened to you and I am very sorry to hear that you lost your best friend in such a way. It sounds to me that you may be experiencing survivor’s guilt, where you may feel like you have done something wrong by surviving when your friend did not.

I promise you that you have done nothing wrong by surviving and that unfortunately events happen everyday where we simply cannot process the outcomes. If these questions haunt you or impede your life, I would recommend seeing a professional that specializes in this field. This person will be able to give you perspective from years of talking with other people who have gone through similar tragedies.

There is nothing wrong with looking at your surviving as a second chance or as a gift, but don’t dwell on what that means. By wondering about the what ifs of the past and the purpose of your future, you are losing the present moment and when it comes down to it, that is all we can ever truly lose, the present. I don’t think your best friend would want you to lose any of these moments in your life.

The purpose of your life and this gift you have been given is to simply live. Make the best of opportunities, make mistakes, go on adventures, love and keep breathing. Take each moment as it comes, in the present. The best way you can honor your friend is to live your life and carry her memory with you as you do.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Unwanted Pregnancy

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Hey Alex! 

I never wanted children and despite precautions being taken here I am with a 12 month old baby boy. I have been married to the father of my child for 5 years and he is an amazing man who loves our baby very much, but I just don’t want to be here anymore. He can tell how miserable I am and he knows that it is because I never wanted a baby. I want to leave and let him raise our child on his own. I honestly think he would be happier and I know that I would be happier too. What should I do?

Sincerely,

Mother of the Year

 

Hey Mother of the Year!

This is a situation where absolutely no one can tell you what to do. You are going to have to do a lot of soul searching and come to the best conclusion for your child, not for you. I would like to give you my thoughts though and some points that I think you should consider.

First and foremost you need to have a very direct conversation with your husband. I’m sure that you are right and he is picking up on your misery, but you can’t just assume that and you can’t assume that he is perfectly happy having a child. He deserves to know exactly how you feel and what you are thinking. The two of you need to come to a healthy solution together if at all possible.

I do feel that if you are going to leave perhaps it is better not to wait it out and see if your feelings change. A baby that young is likely not to even remember you being a part of their life, which might be better for the child rather than having memories of mom leaving one day. I would caution that if you choose to leave, then be gone. I can only imagine that having a mother who pops in and out of your life periodically would be psychologically damaging for any child. 

So whatever decision you make, make it with the mindset that there is no going back. I’m not saying that there is no going back but that your decision should carry this much weight.

Lastly, at a bare minimum if you choose to leave, you will still be financially responsible for this child. We all hear about “deadbeat dads” but there are just as many deadbeat moms, don’t become that person. While you may never have wanted a child; it happened and it is still your responsibility to provide. 

Sincerely,

Alex

 

 

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Ask Alex : Stressful Life

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Hey Alex!

Lately I have been feeling the stress. Nothing out of the ordinary, work and home life, but I think with the state of the world it is making it harder for me to cope. It just seems like everything is going badly. I’ve tried all the regular things, like exercise and meditation to deal, but I just keep finding myself overwhelmed. Do you have any tips or advice on dealing with everyday stress?

Sincerely,

Over It

 

Hey Over It!

I think the majority of people are feeling the stress nowadays, and I think you are right, the never ending year that is 2020 is playing a big part in that. 

The first thing you need to do is disconnect from the negativity, even if just for a few days. World events are very important and in the grand scheme of things does affect us all, but following the constant barrage of event after event can wear on the best of us. Stay informed, watch the news, read the articles, but be mindful of how much time you spend doing this and how you are reacting to it. It never hurts to take a break when needed.

Now as far as dealing with life’s stresses that can sometimes add up, I would like to say that the standard advice is exercise, eating right and getting enough sleep. These are all recommended time and time again and for a reason, they work for many people!

But for a more unconventional approach, you have to reset your mind. The truth is that the events surrounding you do not affect you, how you react to them is what causes your stress. You have to reset your way of thinking. Instead of being overwhelmed with tasks at hand, stop and reflect on how tackling the task will offer you improvement. Every task completed is an opportunity to better your life. 

Lastly, make a list of what needs to be done and set your sights on just doing one thing at a time. There is no need to worry about what all is on the list, just focus your time and energy on the one item at hand. Eventually the list will get done. 

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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