Recently my daughter told me that she heard a rumor that her soccer coach was sleeping with one of the girls on the team. I asked her who she heard it from and if she thought it was true. She told me that she didn’t know if it was true or not. I’m struggling with whether or not I should say something to the school. He has been her coach for the entire four years of her high schooling and always seemed like such a nice man. I don’t want to damage or ruin his reputation over a rumor. What should I do?
This is one of those situations where you can’t worry about ruining someone’s reputation. You need to report this to the school. This is a person who has been hired not only to coach but to also look out for the well being of the children he comes in contact with.
Report it in a discrete manner to the administration of your daughter’s school. The school should in return conduct a discrete investigation into the matter.
If it is found to just be a rumor with no credibility then things should carry on as usual with most being none the wiser to what was said about this coach.
While I’m sure a rumor of such nature could be very hurtful to the coach on a personal level, also consider that if he is innocent of the allegations he would want to address it and clear his name.
A teacher or coach chooses their profession and it is expected of them to uphold their respective duties to the highest degree. They have a great influence in shaping our children and preparing them for life. Any coach or teacher should be one that not only the children can trust but that the parents can trust as well.
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