Recently my dad started dating a new woman. Him and my mom have been divorced for years and both of them have dated, so the dating thing isn’t a problem for me. The problem is that my dad’s new girlfriend is 35 and he is 64. I’m 37 years old and am having a real hard time with the new girlfriend being younger than me. I want to say something to my dad but don’t know if I should. What should I do?
Hey Grossed Out!
Before you say anything, if you do, you need to take a step back and analyze the situation. I understand the uncomfortable feeling you’re having but assessing the situation as a whole might give you a better perspective and help you to navigate these awkward circumstances.
First, really look to see if the new girlfriend is using your father and he is unaware. For example, is she after his money or is she using his status to get a step up in her own life? If you are sure without a doubt that this is the case you should feel more than comfortable approaching your dad with your concerns.
But before you do, you also need to see if the relationship is mutually beneficial. For example, the new girlfriend might be enjoying the status of dating your father and at the same time your father might be gaining points in his world from having a young woman by his side. If this is the case, then it is best to stay out of it. Your father is a grown man capable of making decisions to better his own life.
Lastly, there is always a good possibility that they just enjoy each other’s company, in which case, it is absolutely none of your business and best to just keep your mouth shut. There is a certain taboo to such an age difference but at the end of the day it is not your place to rain on someone’s parade because their relationship makes you uncomfortable.
Take a step back. Try to look at the situation without your emotions playing a part and I think the answer of whether or not to say something will come to you.
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