Ask Alex : High School Rumors

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Hey Alex!

I broke up with my boyfriend and he is starting nasty rumors about me. I don’t know who all has heard the rumors but I feel like people are treating me different and talking about me. It’s so bad that I don’t even want to go to school! I keep begging my mom to just let me stay home, but she is making me go anyway. How can I make her understand how bad it is?

Sincerely,

Scared

 

 

Hey Scared!

I can tell you with a lot of confidence that what you are facing has been faced by almost every single person in the world. Whether it is embarrassment from untrue rumors or humiliation from a mistake. So know that you are not alone and take this knowledge with you when you hear something about someone else. Remember your feelings in this moment and try in the future to not be a part of making someone else feel this way.

I wish there was a way to let you know how insignificant this moment in your life will end up being. It will pass and the less importance you place on it, the quicker it will go. All gossip becomes old gossip when something new occurs and something new will always occur.

Your mom is right in having you just face it head on. The more you show that these rumors don’t hold any power over you, the less power these rumors have and the less likely people are to believe them.

Keep in mind those that know you, know the truth and who you are, and those that choose to believe what they hear, don’t matter.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Accidental Text

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Hey Alex!

I feel like I want to crawl in a hole and just die. I am very married to a man named Brad and very employed by a man named Bradley, at least that is how my boss’s name is saved in my phone. Recently my husband was out of town for a few days and I accidentally sent an embarrassingly private text message to my boss. The text was meant for my husband! I didn’t realize I had done this until the next day at work! My boss hasn’t said anything to me but I can’t even make eye contact with him now. I’m so embarrassed! How should I approach this situation? 

Sincerely,

Embarrassed

 

Hey Embarrassed!

There are really two lessons to be learned here, but we will start with the first, which is how to approach the situation so that you can be comfortable at work again.

As with any situation where there is simply a misunderstanding or a simple mistake that has been made, approach it head on. Ask your boss if you could speak to him for a couple of minutes and explain in private that you are very sorry to have sent the message to him and that it was meant for your husband, who was out of town.

Your boss hasn’t approached you yet because much like you, he probably just wants the situation to disappear, but for the sake of both of you and your continued working relationship, it is going to be better in the long run to just openly discuss and clear the air. 

The next lesson to be learned here, is always be mindful of what you text! Yes, that message was meant for your husband but look at where it ended up and to be frank, you can never guarantee that who you are texting is always going to be in good graces with you.

Once it is sent out in the land of digital, it has the potential to be there forever. Make sure that anything you send is something that you wouldn’t mind having resurface later in your life.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

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Ask Alex : Zodiac Signs

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Hey Alex! 

I’ve recently gotten really into reading horoscopes and about the different zodiac signs. I think it has been helpful in how to navigate my relationships and so much of it seems to be spot on. My question is do you think all the advice surrounding zodiac signs is true and how much would you let it dictate your interactions?

Sincerely,

Leo

 

 

Hey Leo!

I think there is some truth to personality traits of people born under certain signs, but I would exercise caution when using this as a tool to make life decisions. 

While there does seem to be common factors of people born during certain times of the year, you have to remember that individual life experiences will play a role in a person’s development. So while an Aries might be known for their impulsive fiery deposition, events might have taken place in their lives that would cause them to be more reserved. In other words you cannot just blatantly judge a book by its zodiac cover.

Another topic of consideration when “researching” a person’s zodiac behavior is that the internet is not the most reliable source for factual information. Check your sources before putting any stock into what is being said. Make sure that a Karen with healing crystals isn’t the guru behind the screen.

I would use the information you gather to try to better understand individuals and the relationships you have with them, but I definitely would not let this factor alone dictate your interactions or life decisions.

Sincerely,

Alex

 

 

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Ask Alex: Stressed by my Mother-In-Law

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Hey Alex,

I’m stressed and trying to cope with my mother-in-law coming to live with me and my wife. It’s been rough because she wants to be a good daughter, but her mother is very needy and stressful. She constantly tells us what we’re doing wrong, but is physically unable to really help or contribute. How do I tell my wife that her mother is straining and hurting our relationship without causing more damage myself?

Sincerely,

Stressed

 

Hey Stressed,

Do you remember the vows of your wedding, for better or for worse? Well, welcome to worse, and I can assure you that throughout your marriage there will be many other ‘worses’, and they will quite possibly be worse than your current situation.

With that being said, you need to take some responsibility over these circumstances. Your mother-in-law might be adding stress, but she is not straining or hurting your relationship. How you internalize and react to the situation is what can cause the damage.

Your wife obviously feels love or obligation towards her mom or your mother-in-law would not be staying with you during a time of need. I am also assuming from your words that the mother-in-law is facing an issue that leaves her physically unable to live on her own. We can only hope that someone will be there to care for us when we inevitably face the time that we can no longer care for ourselves.

Your wife is probably already well aware of the stress that you are feeling, but you need to look at this from her point of view. She loves you both and she not only wants to be a “good daughter” but also a good wife. Don’t put her in a situation where she feels torn between you and her mother.

Approach your wife with solutions, not with the problem. You could possibly say, “Hey. I can tell this situation is adding some stress on the both of us. Why don’t we make plans to get out of the house once a week, just the two of us?”

She will appreciate that you aren’t just thinking of yourself, but thinking of the two of you as a team.

Sincerely,
Alex

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