Hey Alex!

How much of a difference is too much? I’m in my upper thirties, and I have started dating this guy in his mid-twenties. Not going to go into it more than that.

 I’m a little hesitant, it feels strange, but I like him. Am I too old? Should I move on? It’s not like he’s underage, right? Why do I feel weird about this?

Sincerely,
Feeling My Age

Hey Feeling My Age!

How much of a difference is too much? When it’s illegal or when your own morals tell you “no”.  If both parties are happy in a legal relationship, then keep on keeping on. 

Large age gaps could put a whole other set of obstacles on  relationships that dating someone your own age might not. I mean statistically, men reach full maturity much later than woman….

Do be aware that you can’t put expectations on a person of a different age based on where you are in your life. Were you a different person in your twenties? Of course you were and as long as you keep this in mind and don’t set expectations that he should be someone he’s not, then you’re fine.

Many relationships with age gaps do work out as long as you and your partner stay on the same page.  

Sincerely,
Alex

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