Hey Alex!

I’ve made a huge mistake and it is ruining my reputation. I didn’t realize that people would talk so much and now I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to say exactly what I did because it is so embarrassing, but I need help on how to fix it. How do I move on and get people to stop talking about me?

Sincerely,

Embarrassed

Hey Embarrassed!

Without knowing the mistake, I can’t advise on exactly how to fix it but I can tell you how to cope and move on.

It’s simple, you move on. We are all human and there are very few of us who have gone through life without making a mistake that either devastated us at the time or if known would have caused devastation.

Every single person who is talking about you now, has something that would become the center of gossip if brought to light. It probably says just as much about them that they gossip, as your mistake says about you. Might even say more about them.

Don’t worry about what people are saying, the next big mistake will put the name of someone else in their mouth and in the long run do you really care what these people think?

You can’t control how others act. You can only control yourself. Make amends if you need to. Take care not to make the same mistake twice and face the gossip head on by acting like it isn’t getting to you. 

Sincerely,

Alex

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